Apologize

Remember, it's okay not to be okay #readsomewhere

So, i had 2 friends. One of them is a girl and the other is a boy. No no no, i'm not going to match them (but if they wanted.. er back to the topic shall we?). But through several conversation with both of them and done separately off course, i realize they had something in common, although they show it in different ways (ya jelas kali, namanya juga cewek sama cowok, udah kayak langit bumi kan bedanya =))).

The girl once had a boyfriend. He's the one she's been waiting for to be the object of her affection. He's been a kind and caring boyfriend to her. Long story short, they're parted. The boyfriend suddenly turned away from her and went back to his old lover (yes his ex-girlfriend). Broken-hearted yet unfinished bussiness too, double lethal combo, don't you think so?

Then we move to another story about my other friend, the boy. He once had a girlfriend too during their collegiate year. They graduated and then he got a job that requires him to go off the island. Long Distance Relationship it is. The boy realizes that his girlfriend is changing, she pulled away from him and get busy with her own world. The boy tried to find a solution by quitting his job and returned to the city, where he got an accident in the first month he was back. Not to make the story even pathetic, his girlfriend left him for another boy.

One thing that made them until now have not been able to move on from their ex(es) is : they want an appropriate apology from their ex. They say that to me separately, makes me think again, is that really necessary? I used to say : Mereka aja sudah senang-senang sama yang baru, mana kepikiran untuk bilang sorry sama lu? Ga usah diharapin deh. Atau : Dia pergi ninggalin lu begitu aja, apa lu pikir dia mau repot2 kembali cuma untuk bilang maaf? he's a coward! etc.

On this post, i had to say sorry for you guys. Maybe i never been neglected that way or maybe i'm just being not sensitive to both of you thus saying those kind of words. I know what i'm saying is true. It comes from my right brain aka logical, which is needed because both of you need some slap in the face to get up from this despair. But still... when i think again, yeah maybe i just dunno what to say to you guys.

If the way out is forgiving the ones that hurts you the most, it would be easier since the power lies in you. But when it comes to wanted an apology from the others, an appropriate-one-not-just-some-meaningless-sorry, that's gonna be a long waited wishes, because as you know it : you can change yourself, but you can't control others.

I'm not blaming you guys for hoping that, it's natural. I just want to tell you, that sometimes your wishes may or may not come true. It's okay to wish that, but if that didn't happen, smile and let them go. You've given them the time, your precious time, so now let's spare some other time loving yourself. I know it takes time, but believe that you're not alone on this journey.

Even miracles take a little time. - Fairy Godmother on Cinderella.

Jadi, mau dijodohin ga nih? *kabur* =)))))))))))

The Bride

Let me tell you a story, about a woman, who have done through the ups and downs in life...

Saya kenalan dengan mbak satu ini sekitar 2 setengah tahun lalu di kantor boss saya. Orangnya berusia awal 30-an, berperawakan kecil mungil, putih, modis, rame, tapi dari awal pun saya sudah bisa menduga kalau dia termasuk cewek yang judes. Kantor saya emang cuma perusahaan kecil, karyawannya cuma saya dan mbak judes ini. Kalian pasti berpikiran, kami langsung jadi teman akrab. Ga sepenuhnya salah sih, tapi awalnya tidak seperti itu :)

Take Your Time

Saya belajar pentingnya untuk tidak tergesa-gesa (sabar/tenang) pada saat Natal pertama saya di Berkeley. Saat itu tahun 1960, dan saya belum terbiasa dengan cara hidup bangsa Amerika.


Saya pergi ke kantor pos untuk mengirimkan paket kepada ibu saya di India. Ketika saya mendekati gedung tua di pojok Allston Way dan Milvia, yang dibangun dalam masa ketika irama hidup lebih lambat, saya melihat mobil-mobil diparkir dua lapis dan orang-orang berlari-lari naik turun tangga granit yang lebar. Di dalam kantor pos yang terasa adalah suasana penuh frustasi, kejengkelan, dan kadang-kadang bahkan terlihat adanya pancaran kemarahan.


Ada kerumunan atau tidak, saya harus mengeposkan paket saya. Saya ikut mengambil posisi di belakang antrean panjang dan berdiri dengan sabar memperhatikan adegan di sekitar saya. Saya menikmati menonton pertunjukan hidup, dan saya menemukan tak perlu mencari situasi istimewa untuk menemukan wawasan dan ilham.

Anak Laki-Laki Buta

Seorang anak laki-laki buta duduk di tangga sebuah gedung dengan sebuah

topi terbalik tergeletak di depannya. Dia memegang kertas yang bertuliskan

: “Saya orang buta, tolong saya.” Hanya ada beberapa uang koin di dalam

topi itu.

Ada seorang laki-laki yang berjalan melintas. Dia mengambil beberapa uang

koin dari dalam sakunya dan menjatuhkannya ke dalam topi itu. Kemudian dia

mengambil kertas yang dipegang anak itu, membaliknya dan menuliskan

beberapa kata-kata. Dia mengembalikan kertas itu untuk dipegang lagi oleh

si anak laki-laki, sehingga setiap orang yang berjalan melintas dapat

membacanya.

Segera topi itu penuh dengan uang koin. Banyak orang yang memberikan uang

pada anak laki-laki buta itu.