Apologize

Remember, it's okay not to be okay #readsomewhere

So, i had 2 friends. One of them is a girl and the other is a boy. No no no, i'm not going to match them (but if they wanted.. er back to the topic shall we?). But through several conversation with both of them and done separately off course, i realize they had something in common, although they show it in different ways (ya jelas kali, namanya juga cewek sama cowok, udah kayak langit bumi kan bedanya =))).

The girl once had a boyfriend. He's the one she's been waiting for to be the object of her affection. He's been a kind and caring boyfriend to her. Long story short, they're parted. The boyfriend suddenly turned away from her and went back to his old lover (yes his ex-girlfriend). Broken-hearted yet unfinished bussiness too, double lethal combo, don't you think so?

Then we move to another story about my other friend, the boy. He once had a girlfriend too during their collegiate year. They graduated and then he got a job that requires him to go off the island. Long Distance Relationship it is. The boy realizes that his girlfriend is changing, she pulled away from him and get busy with her own world. The boy tried to find a solution by quitting his job and returned to the city, where he got an accident in the first month he was back. Not to make the story even pathetic, his girlfriend left him for another boy.

One thing that made them until now have not been able to move on from their ex(es) is : they want an appropriate apology from their ex. They say that to me separately, makes me think again, is that really necessary? I used to say : Mereka aja sudah senang-senang sama yang baru, mana kepikiran untuk bilang sorry sama lu? Ga usah diharapin deh. Atau : Dia pergi ninggalin lu begitu aja, apa lu pikir dia mau repot2 kembali cuma untuk bilang maaf? he's a coward! etc.

On this post, i had to say sorry for you guys. Maybe i never been neglected that way or maybe i'm just being not sensitive to both of you thus saying those kind of words. I know what i'm saying is true. It comes from my right brain aka logical, which is needed because both of you need some slap in the face to get up from this despair. But still... when i think again, yeah maybe i just dunno what to say to you guys.

If the way out is forgiving the ones that hurts you the most, it would be easier since the power lies in you. But when it comes to wanted an apology from the others, an appropriate-one-not-just-some-meaningless-sorry, that's gonna be a long waited wishes, because as you know it : you can change yourself, but you can't control others.

I'm not blaming you guys for hoping that, it's natural. I just want to tell you, that sometimes your wishes may or may not come true. It's okay to wish that, but if that didn't happen, smile and let them go. You've given them the time, your precious time, so now let's spare some other time loving yourself. I know it takes time, but believe that you're not alone on this journey.

Even miracles take a little time. - Fairy Godmother on Cinderella.

Jadi, mau dijodohin ga nih? *kabur* =)))))))))))